How To Be A Playroom Sweetheart…

Our playroom is one of the most friendly and most fun on the scene. The code of conduct, with your support, is what keeps it that way. Our rules apply to everyone regardless of gender and, whether you’re a first-timer or a seasoned regular, we expect the highest standards of behaviour from Kinky Salon partygoers.

Respect the space

The playroom isn’t a chillout area, and it’s also not a bar. So please no drinks, no food, and don’t leave clothes in passageways as it is unpleasant for those with mobility issues. Don’t go to sleep in the playroom and don’t hang around chatting. If other guests are causing a nuisance feel free to alert a playroom host, walkaround host, or one of the organizers (aka someone wearing an arm band).

Make friends before you get to the playroom

We have a “no lingering unaccompanied” rule which means that you should only be in the playroom to play with other people.  The playroom is not a pickup spot! We have multiple social spaces for meeting new friends. It’s okay to go in the playroom to meet your friends. But if you plan to hang around solo in the playroom, or team up with a wanky wing(wo)man who you’re not playing with, hoping to get involved in someone else’s scene, think again. Even if you have been playing, if your playmate(s) leave(s) the playroom and you find yourself at a loose end, take that as your cue to leave.

Voyeurism

Even if you are with someone, be careful about engaging in voyeurism. There’s a difference between “seeing” and “staring.” Some people love to be watched; most do not. So be sure to ask before watching, and that also goes for times when you may be playing yourself. Put that zombie face away: no-one wants to see you drooling like a Wanky McJerkoff!

Consent: Get it, give it

Get enthusiastic, positive and ideally verbal consent for everything you do. Whether it’s kissing, touching, biting, spanking, stroking, licking, whatever: check that it’s okay and that it’s what your partner(s) explicitly want(s). Do so throughout the scene, not just once. Just because someone is not saying ‘No’ doesn’t mean it’s a ‘Yes.’

Always communicate rather than making assumptions. That goes especially for approaching someone for the first time or joining a scene. It’s best to talk, but even if your mouths aren’t available there are other ways and there’s no excuse not to get some sort of signal of consent.

Negotiate your boundaries

Being clear about what you are comfortable with is just as important as gaining consent. Don’t be afraid to say ‘No’ or ‘Maybe’ and to let your playmate(s) know where your boundaries lie. It’s okay to change your boundaries even in the midst of the scene by saying “I’m not comfortable any more” or “I want to stop,” for example.

Saying what turns you on can be sexy as hell. It might seem weird or embarrassing if you’re not used to doing this but if you’re playing with strangers it’s essential.

Respect other people’s choices. Be graceful and don’t be offended or try to argue if someone says ‘No’ to you. Equally, be firm but polite when you turn people down.

Safer sex, no exceptions

Put condoms on toys and… everything else that goes in warm places. Make sure you clearly communicate that you are using a condom – don’t wait for the other person to ask. Disregard of this rule is unacceptable. We provide safer sex supplies in our play areas include latex and non-latex condoms, gloves, dams, lube, mouthwash and more. Please also feel free to bring your own favourite supplies.

Be upfront about your safer sex preferences. It’s okay to ask for your playmate to use gloves or a dental dam if that’s your thing.

Keep it clean

Be as down and dirty as you like, but clear up after yourselves. That “squishy surprise” you just threw on the floor is potentially a health hazard as well as being downright nasty to put your hand in. We provide garbage bins for your used condoms and sex supplies so please use them. And feel free to bring your own bag of tricks if you like. It’s never a bad idea to have extra supplies, or a towel to lay underneath you and your partner(s), especially if you anticipate getting… um… extra slippery. We also provide towel on site included in your ticket price.

Speak up!

We all make mistakes, get over-excited or misread the situation from time to time. But the only way we can be aware of our behaviour is if other people let us know. It is everyone’s responsibility to let other guests know that they are in danger of breaking our code of conduct or these guidelines.

By communicating positively, every guest and every member of our crew can help to prevent misunderstandings from developing into anything serious. If someone makes you uncomfortable, for ANY reason, let them know immediately. That includes touching without asking, saying something that offends you, or even just looking at you in a way you don’t like.

Our playroom and fungeon hosts, walk-around hosts, and event organizers are on hand for sticky situations. Even if you’re not involved in a scene, if you see a potential problem, feel empowered to have a quiet word or to get one of our crew involved. All hosts on shift as well as our event organizers wear light-up arm bands so you can pick them out in a crowd.

If you need to make a complaint about another guest, please try and tell one of the crew or a host on shift on the night. We will always investigate complaints, even after the event, but the sooner we hear about it, the more likely we can bring about a happy result for everyone.