PAL System

DIVEINKinky Salon is an event for couples, trouples, and chaperoned singles only. Couples don’t have to be male/female. Whatever floats your boat. Nobody comes to Kinky Salon alone and everyone is responsible for the person they come with.

If you are single and want to come to Kinky Salon it’s easy. Just bring a friend (we call them your PAL).

WHAT’S A PAL? Pervy Activity Liaison 


Whatever your gender, if you want to come to Kinky Salon without a date these rules apply:

  • When you come to Kinky Salon you must bring a PAL with you.
  • You can’t PAL someone you don’t know. You must know them and trust them.
  • Your PAL can be any gender, or even a couple.
  • You are responsible for your PALs behaviour and they are responsible for yours!
  • If either of you violate the code of conduct you will both be held responsible.
  • You must arrive together and we recommend leaving together.



The PAL System means that nobody comes to Kinky Salon alone, and each person is responsible for the person they came with. It’s like a buddy system for perverts.

I’m a Kinky Salon member but my PAL isn’t. Can I still bring them?
YES! Members can invite non-members to be their PAL. We welcome it! This is exactly how we bring more wonderful people into our community. But all non-member PALs must apply to become a member prior to coming to one of our parties. This ensures that on the night of the event we know who they are, that they’ve familiarized themselves with our Code of Conduct, and that they know what they’re getting themselves into. PALs who aren’t members by the night of the event will not be admitted at the door. And without a PAL… you won’t be admitted either.

I am a single guy. Can my PAL be another single guy?
YES! As long as you know and trust them, you can testify to their good character and agree to keep an eye on each other, your PAL can be any gender.

We are a couple and we have a single friend- can we bring them with us?
YES! Please do! Triad PALs are welcome. If your group is more than three… you’ll have to start pairing off into smaller PAL groups.

I am a single girl. Do I really need to bring a PAL?
YES! They can be any gender or a couple.

I am a single guy. Am I welcome?
YES! As long as you are respectful, you have read and understand the Code of Conduct, you have a PAL who you know and trust with you, and you are not in street clothes you are welcome.

Can I meet someone online, arrive with them, and then go off and party?
NO! You must know your PAL, be able to testify to their good character, and trust them. To come to the event with someone you don’t know and trust is disrespectful to our community and compromises the safety of the space. And you’ll also be putting your own status in the community at risk if your PAL misbehaves, as you’re also responsible for your PALs behaviour. Don’t chance it!

My PAL cancelled last minute. Can I call my friend who is already there, and get them to meet me at the door and be my PAL (as a group of three)?
YES! As long as: a) they can meet you at the door when you arrive; and b) they don’t have too many PALs already (maximum is a group of three).

If I arrive 15 minutes before my PAL can I hang out at the party till they arrive?
NO! We don’t have much of a lobby in our venue to hold you while you wait, so probably best to arrive together. If you’re really early and don’t want to wait outside, there are a number of great cafes and the like nearby to pass the time.

I have been coming to Kinky Salon for years. Can I come without a PAL?
NO. You will need to come with someone.

Why do you recommend leaving together?
The ONLY reason you should leave without your PAL is if you trust them in your deepest heart of hearts to behave themselves. You don’t want to be held responsible for some random person’s late night drunken shenanigans! If you leave and your PAL misbehaves, you will also be held responsible. If your PAL leaves and your actions are even slightly dodgy, we will ask you to leave.

What happens if my PAL misbehaves?
First we will talk to them, and then we will find you and talk to you. If necessary, one or both of you will be asked to leave. If it is serious then they will be banned from future events and you will get a warning.

Will I get kicked out if my PAL misbehaves?
You might. It depends on the situation.